It's the tone in the voice that sets you off. The twist of the ends of the words that indicate pity. Pity for your stupidity or ignorance. It's the way they slow the words so you are sure to understand. It's the way the pat you on the head or the rear, saying 'don't worry, let the adults take care of this.' We've all had those moments and sometimes we have been the Patron. Remember? Now: write!